Your Ultimate Go-To Guide To All Things Dildos

It’s history time, so the question is when were dildos invented and the answer just may surprise you! Dildos have a long history that dates back thousands of years!

The first dildo was discovered in a German cave and was thought to be used by people during the ice age of 28,000 years ago. Since then, dildos have reappeared consistently in cultures and societies around the world and has been a source for anxiety, pleasure and some controversial thoughts.

On top of that, legend has it that in 50 BCE, Queen Cleopatra filled a hollow guard with bees, causing it to vibrate, which allegedly created the first vibrator.

What Exactly Are Dildos?

So the question is, what are dildos?  Dildos are sex toys that you can put in your mouth, anus, or vagina.

While they are sometimes meant to feel like a penis, they don’t have to look like one. They come in all different materials, shapes, and sizes. Some dildos are curved in order to stimulate the prostate or g-spot.

There are many different kinds of dildos. You can find ones that are:

  • Made to look like a penis with testicles
  • Made to be strapped on with a harness
  • Meant for two partners to use at once, called double-sided or double-penetration dildos
  • Vibrating dildos
  • Made with a suction base to adhere to a surface
  • Glass or metal dildos

What Type Of Materials Are Dildos Made Out Of?

What exactly are dildos made out of? Sure, lots of you know, dildos can be made of a few different things:

  • Silicone
  • Rubber
  • Plastic
  • Metal
  • Glass

However, not all materials are body safe or safer sex toys. Safe materials include metal one hundred percent medical grade stainless steel metal. You can add a powder coating to that with body safe coloring, and you’re good.  Silicone has to be, has to be 100 percent medical grade silicone or else it will disintegrate. It’ll just get on nasty, porous and you do not want that.

Also, glass is an option. There’s two different kinds of glass. You really want a good shatterproof glass. So we’re looking more like a borosilicate as opposed to soda lime. Also, surprise surprise, wood, ceramic, stone. As long as they have medical grade sealing, glaze or kiln fired, you’re good to go.

A great glass dildo option is the Glas Spiral Glass Dildo. Glass is always hard. Lube this beauty up for hours of deep penetration and pleasure. Raised spiral ridge increases stimulation, while the bulbous head activates the G-spot.

Also, we have the hard plastics, ABS or medical grade plastic.  These are the most commonly seen plastic with silicone.

Again, just a reminder, toxic materials, anything under 100 percent silicone is a no go. All of these cyber skin, you are three fans of flesh, NIO Skin, Fox Flash, not 100 percent silicone, skip it!

Coating, glaze or varnish, check the ingredients you know may contain highly toxic materials, so if it wasn’t previously mentioned, don’t do it. Always go with Ella. We got you!

How Much Do Dildos Really Cost?

Are you wondering how much you’ll pay for a dildo? Well, those can cost anywhere from $10 to over $200. The things to consider are the quality, the longevity, the materials, and the attachments. For example, if you like a vibrating dildo, size, and shape.

Do not forget that you get what you pay for! Meaning if you want a longer-lasting dodo, you may need to spend a tad more money for more bells and whistles.

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Where Do You Buy Dildos?

The question is where to buy a dildo?

Well, look no further at Ella Paradis have tons of dildos to choose from, which are in different shapes and sizes. Some vibrate and some even releases. You can find a dildo you desire on our site directly. Just click on the tab, Dildos.

As you can see, we have some top-rated glass, silicone, realistic, and even more dildos to choose from.

How Do You Choose The Right Dildo For You?

The struggle is real when it comes to shopping for a dildo online. There seems to be a lot of confusion out there — and who could blame you? The descriptions aren’t great, and many brands promise a MIND-BLOWING experience, but often fall short.

As popular opinion shifts toward women’s empowerment and sexual health, our collective desire to incorporate love toys into a broader sexual repertoire has become the preferred norm. Unfortunately, there isn’t a lot of great information out there on the “ins and outs” of selecting a dildo that will add value and excitement to your sexy time.

There are so many different considerations to make when choosing the right dildo for you, whether it be the size, shape, density, material, texture or color of your new toy. That’s why Ella Paradis is here – let’s talk dildos.

What are Dildos?

Dildos are adult sex toys which are molded and shaped to resemble a penis (fun fact: many dildos are cast from the genitals of male porn stars). They can be used by both women and men – though, they are meant for penetration as there is often no vibration whatsoever. That’s right – it means your arms are doing all the work (or your legs if you’re riding your toy in a squatting position). Sure, some dildos DO vibrate… but that’s another story. Learn more about the difference between vibrators and dildos.

Pro Tip: A great way to quickly switch between vaginal/anal or different partners (without having to hand wash your toy) is to use a condom on your dildo. Remember cover the entire toy, all the way down to the base!

How to Choose Your Perfect Dildo

When trying a new dildo for the first time, your body will tell you what material works best for you. If your toy leaves something to be desired, don’t give up! It may just not be the right toy for you. Dildos can have a variety of characteristics that set them apart from other sex toys, including other dildos!

1. Sizes – Length & Thickness

Don’t let size ever be an issue again. Finding the right dildo is all about personalization, and it’s the most important aspect of your sex toy. You must be realistic about not only what you want, but what your body can handle. Too big and you won’t be able to use it, too small and it won’t get the job done.

Ensure you not only have a comfortable, insertable length, but also a width (or girth) that’s right for your body. There are different techniques in testing length and width for your body you can find online. As always, never use a technique that causes pain or discomfort for yourself or your partner – you know your body best.

2. Use & Shape — Vaginal or Anal, Solo or Partnered

While most dildos can be used for either vaginal or anal stimulation, when performing anal stimulation, we recommend utilizing dildos that have beads, a long handle, or flared base for safety purposes. These features will assist in preventing your dildo from going all the way inside and getting stuck. Hey, it happens, and you can Google that one too!

When performing partnered vaginal or anal stimulation, we recommend following similar guidelines as the solo play – seeking features preventing your dildo from going all the way inside of your anus for anal stimulation. A fun addition to partnered play is double-penetrating dildos that usually feature opposing dildos on one base, or a strap-on utilized for simultaneous stimulation.

Looking for g-spot or p-spot stimulation? You’ll want to look at a curved g-spot dildo or prostate dildo accordingly. A curved shape will allow you massage that special spot, reaching new heights of pleasure.

3. Material — Rubber/Silicone, Glass, Metal

Dildos come in many materials. There are various types of rubber dildos – whether it be TPR/TPE, soft PVC, metal, and the ever-popular silicone. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of all of your material options for your next dildo!

Rubber dildos are great alternatives to luxury sex toys, as they are usually lower in price. The drawback for these dildos is that they are recommended to be used for solo stimulation as they are not the easiest to fully sterilize for shared play. If you plan on sharing with a partner or partners – don’t fret! Use these dildos with a condom (all the way to the base) for protection.

Glass dildos are not only extremely pleasing and experimental due to their ability to let you play with temperate (safely), but they are some of the most beautiful sex toys on the market. Coming in many shapes and sizes, glass dildos can easily hit your g-spot or p-spot repeatedly without missing the mark! A unique feature for glass dildos comes with their absence of flexibility. Due to the material, they are only limited to one position, which is a preference for some and drawback for others.

Metal dildos are the stylish cousin to the glass dildo. Again, with the ability to play with temperature (heat it up or ice it down), the metal dildo should be used gently and with some caution until you become familiar. Both the glass and metal dildos are recommended to be used with plenty of lube to really take advantage of the smooth and sleek features they’re so well-known for. Glass and metal dildos can be used with any type of lubricant, can be heated or cooled with water (for additionally comfort and stimulation) and are very easy to clean.

The undisputed king of the bedroom sex toy is the tried-and-true silicone dildo. A staple to almost everyone’s sex toy collection, the silicone sex toy really has little limitations. Due to silicone’s ability to come in an array of densities, flexibility, shapes, sizes and colors, it has become a trusted material of the most realistic and fantasy-influenced dildos on the market. Silicone dildos are also on the softer side and skin-friendly. They can only be used with water-based lubricants, since silicone-based lubricants damage the material.

When testing and exploring new adult toys, it is important to listen to your body. From gentle exploration you will learn which materials work best for you. Please, take that into consideration when choosing your dildo’s material. What to learn more about cleaning dildos? Check out our article on How to Clean and Store Your Sex Toys (And What Happens When You Don’t).

4. Textures – Smooth, Veiny, or Ribbed/Beaded.

If you don’t already have a texture in mind, a great way to determine your preference is to experiment with condoms! Have you found yourself receiving greater pleasure from the original, smooth condom? Maybe you love the feeling of an ultra-thin condom that lets you feel every part of your man? Tried it all but think you need to go outside the box a little?

All of these textures are a preference to the receiver and can stimulate different parts of your vaginal or anal areas. While you’ll find the smoothest options within the glass and metal categories, the best veiny dildos will be made of silicone due to their ability to replicate realistic penises of every shape and size. I mean, they can literally replicate your favorite penis – we aren’t kidding. Take a peek at our penis molding kits if you’re interested in making sure you always have your partner with you for pleasure.

Looking for a ribbed or beaded dildo that will give you an experience you can’t find with your partner, alone? A ribbed or beaded dildo allows for you to experience with varying sizes and shapes – all in one sex toy! You can find these dildos in many materials but are most commonly seen made of glass or silicone.

5. Colors — Bright, Mixed colors, or Fleshy Colored

Color options are endless when it comes to sex toys – from clear to rainbow, flesh-colored to neon.

How To Use A Dildo?

After choosing the right dildo that suits you.  No matter your fantasy, dildos can be worn, received and enjoyed by folks of all genders and sexual orientations.
If this is your first time using a dildo, it’s natural to feel a little apprehensive when facing something new.

After all, it’s unknown and you don’t want to make a mistake. However, there are ways to mentally prepare yourself to use a dildo for the first time so that you can approach it with confidence.

First, take some time to research the product and make sure it is something you want.

Check out our Beginner’s Guide To Do’s and Don’ts of Sex Toys in 2022. This will help reduce the anxiety you feel about the new experience.

Second, try to find someone who has experience with using dildos. Ask questions. Make sure this is someone you feel comfortable with. This could be a close friend or partner.  If this isn’t something you can do, the Ella Paradis customer service team is discreet, friendly and supportive.

Be sure to talk about how you feel and your expectations. This will help you to manage your anxiety and be more open to new experiences.

Third, take it one step at a time. Don’t try to do too much at once. Master each step before moving on to the next. Check out our blog on What to Buy For Your First Sex Toy?
Some of Our Favorite Beginner Level Dildos are the Adam & Eve Brand Easy O Realistic Jelly Vibe with its realistically shaped head the powerful motor targets your G-Spot with an insertable length 5.25 inches for deep thrills with a filling 1.6 inch width. Lifelike shaping and contours feel so real. Ride on right into the bath or shower as this smooth and supple waterproof vibe is completely submersible.
Also, check out the Lelo Ella, dedicated to pleasure, with one end precisely designed to reach and stimulate a woman’s G-spot while the other end is fashioned for conventional erotic stimulation.
Don’t forget the lube!  Be sure to read The Lube Low-Down: Different Types of Lube & Their Uses